How To Release Suppressed Emotions

It is in our innate nature to escape pain. Regardless of what form of pain it may be, we prefer to run away from it. With our emotions, we do the same thing, we try to escape all our negative and painful feelings by suppressing it and bottling it up. By trying to ignore it. By trying to keep ourselves busy in our day to day lives so that we don’t have to think about it, and so we don’t give ourselves the chance to feel these emotions.

By doing this however, we are inviting ourselves to a whole range of even more negative ‘side effects’ of suppressing emotions. We become depressed, we suffer from anxiety, we become short tempered and agitated, we feel restless and always stressed. Life seems exhausting and everything starts to take it’s toll on us both physically and mentally.

For both our health and the quality of our life, it is incumbent to learn how to release these negative emotions so that they do not consume us.

Below are steps to productively release your pent up feelings:

Acceptance

First step we should always take when faced with emotional turmoil, is to do the opposite of what our mind wants to do. It wants to escape, ignore and suppress. So we do the very opposite. Allow yourself to accept what your feelings. All of it. Let your mind recognise each emotion that is taking place within you. Whether it be anger, sadness, guilt, sorrow. Let yourself feel it fully. Then let the physical manifestation of that emotion follow. If you feel sadness and you want to cry, then allow yourself to cry. By acceptiong your emotions and allowing your heart to express them, and your mind to figure them out, you’re no longer hiding. You’re no longer letting it pile up. You’re actually becoming stronger as you are forcing yourself to face your negative emotions and not hide them.

Keeping a journal!


Creating a journal where you make it a habit to write down your thoughts and feelings everyday is another effective way of letting your feelings out. Although it sounds simple, writing is an effective and therapeutic way of getting it all out of you. Doing this everyday is also beneficial as you can track your thought patterns. The fact that it’s a personal journal is also comforting knowing it is confidential.

Talking to someone you can trust


Sounds like a no brainer, but it’s usually something we don’t do often enough. We might feel embaressed to share our feelings with someone else, especially if suppressing our emotions is something we started doing from childhood as our coping method. It might feel awkward and difficult to share it with someone else, even if it’s someone we know we can trust. We might also feel like we’ll get them worried unnecessarily. But really, verbalising our emotions and sharing it with someone, and in return hearing their viewpoints on it, with any solutions they may share, is in itself both a way of releasing our feelings, and finding a source of comfort. Especially if that person understands us and has experienced these emotions themselves.

Exercise

It is a proven fact that exercise does many positve wonders for our whole being. Everyone is aware of the physical benefits of exercise, but it is also a powerful way of altering our emotional wellbeing too. Our brains release serotonin, dopamine and endorphins. These three chemicals both improves our mood and protects our mind from mental health disorders. Exercise is also great for releasing physical tension which is caused by stress. Such as tensed up  and aching muscles. Strenous exercise such as resistance training or weight lifting fir example, is also a effective way of releasing stress and anger. Whereas yoga is perfect for calming the mind. Even a quick jog can feel mentally exhilarating. It’s like a mind-body-soul detox!

These are proactive and powerful ways to break the destructive habit of suppressing your emotions. Follow these steps and make these your coping methods with everything negative that you feel. The quality of your life will improve and so will your emotional health.

20 thoughts on “How To Release Suppressed Emotions

    1. Thank you for your comment! I think to a certain extent, we are all guilty of suppressing our emotions because of different fears such as guilt, facing judgement and looking weak. But once we make it a habit of releasing these emotions in productive ways, we feel the freedom attached to it, and we realise how many people can actually relate to our emotions! I’m very glad my post was of help to you. Follow Mindelate for much for!

  1. Something we should all earn. Personally the journal bit helps a lot. The more you write you can feel the Venom being sucked out of you. Exercise helps regain the loat strength. Really good advice.

    1. Thank you for taking the time to read and sharing your thoughts on it. I totally agree, writing and excercise are both forms of stress and tension relief in their own ways.

  2. I’ve also witnessed another side effect, if you will, to pent up emotions is a difficult life that continues until we recognize what we’re doing to ourselves. You’re post is very insightful and wise, I am sure it will help people to find ways to live a happier life.

    1. Thank you for your comment and I’m glad you found my post insightful. And absolutely, sometimes we carry on suppressing emotions without actually even knowing that we’re doing it, while or life starts to feel stifled and exhaustive. Thank you for pointing that out!

  3. I write a journal to share with my therapist. That helps her help me if I am not very talkative. She has some topics that bothered me during the week or that I may have forgotten over the week.

    1. Yes Tessa, often times therapists tell us to write/journal what we feel. With children they’ll be told to draw what comes to their mind. All ways of helping you open up and getting insights into your thought and feelings pattern. It’s very effective, as in the process you are getting an opportunity to constantly channel your emotions out, rather then stifling them. Thank you for sharing that with!

      1. No problem. I had to find the right therapists in who I trusted with my journals. I have done it for 2 of them once of which is my current therapist.

  4. This is such important information…There have been times when I *thought* I was dealing with my emotions but sometimes it is so much easier to ignore them. Do you think that not dealing with our emotions is part of the reason why anxiety is such a huge issue in society today? Maybe we are too busy to deal with things?

    1. Thank you for your comment and for sharing your experiences! And I absolutely think that not dealing and accepting our negative emotions results in an array of more critical problems such as low self esteem, inferiority complex and self criticism. This then leads to mental health disorders such as anxiety and depression. I see it like how we perceive any external problem. If there’s a problem, and we ignore it, then it snowballs until it cannot be ignored. It’s always best to just nip it in the bud. Accepting and dealing with negative emotions may seem difficult at first, but once the process has been started, it then feels liberating, empowering and uplifting. However this is known and practiced by very few people as society tells us from a very young age to maintain that stiff upper lip, get a grip and move on with life. So yes, I do think that because of this subconscious conditioning, anxiety and other mental health disorders are prevalent because of this. ๐Ÿ™‚

  5. Great tips :). I learned in therapy that being able to vocalize how emotions and the reasons we think we feel that way, helps tremendously. If you cannot vocalize it and release it, it’s difficult to understand ourselves.

    1. Absolutely Jen! Vocalising and releasing emotions has endless benefits for both the mind and heart. Thank you for sharing that and I’m glad you found this post helpful ๐Ÿ™‚

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