Inferiority Complex


Inferiority complex is caused by a few things. Low self esteem, bottled up feelings, and the inability to express oneself. Failure, constant criticism, and a difficult past (and/or present) further fuels it.  If it’s left alone, the growth of inferiority takes over and brings about other negative feelings in a person. Such as jealousy, pessimism, anger issues and a lack of will or drive. A persons outlook on life becomes quite limited and dulled out. Someone who suffers from inferiority complex always sees the glass half empty.

If this is you then know that this isn’t something that cannot be changed. You don’t have to be in this place forever. Make a concious decision to change your state of mind so that inferiority is replaced by contentness.


Self love

We are our own worst critics. If you dont love and appreciate yourself, then neither will the world, nor will your own mind. When you love someone, you obviously treat them with respect and appreciation. Where in turn you receive the same treatment back from them. The same principle applies to yourself. Listen to your heart, understand yourself, and appreciate the fact that you are a unique individual that deserves respect. Your inner critic will slowly be silenced, and instead a new voice will develop. A supportive one that will push you and keep you driven while reminding you of your self worth.


Jealousy

The opposite of jealousy is admiration and acceptance. Every time you feel jealous of someone, instead of focusing on that thing, force yourself to admire something else about them in a appreciative manner. By changing this outlook from negative to positive, you are quashing the inferiority trigger, and opening up your heart to both acceptance of someone’s quality or beauty, and you’re also training your mind to repel envy. For example, if I am jealous of someones wealth, I can shift this focus to how tirelessly they have worked for years to earn their success. I admire this and notice by the end of it that not only do I not feel envious of this person, but I now feel pretty positive myself.

If you know this person, then give them a genuine compliment on something you admire about them. Watch their face light up with appreciation. And then notice how much your heart likes that!


Just a small conscious mental shift from something negative, to something positive instead, and your whole emotional state changes. Do this everytime you feel jealousy forming, or each time you start comparing yourself to others. It will soon become a habit and you’ll notice that you see the positives in people without jealousy, but rather admiration and appreciation. It’s kind of like practicing positive affirmations. With positive affirmations, you tell yourself positive statements that reflect on things like gratitude and optimism. In this case, it’s expressing and sharing these very same thoughts for yourself but also for others. Which makes it more profound. Think of Tinkerbell sprinkling happy fairy dust everywhere. That’s you!


Delve In To Your Inner Self

We feel inferior to people who we perceive as having something that we don’t. It could be something materialistic, or it could be a personality trait. It could be their physical appearance, or it could be an accomplishment. Deep down below these feelings of jealousy, anger, bitterness and pessimism, hides the actual problem that’s causing all these feelings. It is usually low self esteem and confidence, or it could also be something much more serious like depression and anxiety. Try to observe your feelings and your thought patterns. What triggers these feelings? If it’s people or a person, what do they do that causes these emotions to flare up? Is it because of how confident they are? Or how happy they are? Or how beautiful they are or how socially accepted they are? Pin point what it is and how it makes you feel.

Then act. If your issue is a lack of confidence, then work on improving it. If you think you are suffering from depression then force yourself to reach out and get help. I will soon write a seperate post on depression in much more detail.

Remember that you are your own unique self. No one is better then anyone else and if someone is laughing today, they were most likely crying yesterday. Because life is never the same, it is about entering one phase after another. 
Follow the steps on this post and learn to overcome inferiority, replacing it with the power of positivity.

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19 thoughts on “Inferiority Complex

    1. Inferiority complex is something so many of us actually experience all throughout our lives without realising it. I’m glad you’ve found it helpful. Thank you for reading πŸ™‚

      1. Actually, I see it in combination of the post you wrote about confidence. You see, when I “fell” in my confidence, I felt it was because my confidence was false confidence…I was arrogant. I was trying to be someone/something I actually was not. I felt good at the time, but when some critical things happened, in life, I couldn’t handle it and I fell in a not-so-graceful manner. I can look back on it now and realize that it was coupled with a serious case of inferior feelings.

        Thought provoking posts! Thank you!

      2. You know, our failures, bad times and painful moments are the experiences that change is the most profoundly. I believe in the cliched statement that everything happens for a reason. You, are you now, because of yesterday. And clearly, you’re now wiser πŸ™‚

  1. […] Your Perception of People Individuals with superiority complex often respond to flattery as a way of creating and maintaining friendships. Receiving compliments and admiration is like an ice breaker for them when conversing with someone for the first time. It’s an instant hit. As for people they dislike, it’s usually because they have received criticism from this person. Or they were not noticed the way they wanted to be. Or this person is somehow ‘better then them’ (suppressed inferiority complex).  […]

  2. Hi,
    I know bloggers here.
    My daughter has an inferiority complex. Fortunately she is getting therapeutic care. I agree it is caused by low self-esteem.
    Maybe you can check out my blog if you need any blogging tips. That’s what I write about.
    Janice

    1. Hi Janice! Thank you for reading my post and commenting. Inferiority complex is more common then people realise, and I’m so glad that your daughter is getting the help she needs.

      I have just checked out your blog and it’s just what I need. Followed!

    1. Thank you for your comment! And yes absolutely, narcissism and grandiose disorder go hand in hand. Superiority complex too, is often a branch of the same narcissism tree. I will definately check out the link you included πŸ™‚

  3. Wow, I’ve experienced some of those feelings you’ve listed, but I never realized that there was a term for it. I know that I’m my own worst critic. Thanks for providing advice to help overcome those issues. Very insightful.

    1. Most people don’t realise or know that it has a name or the fact that it can be dealt with effectively! Thank you for reading and commenting and I’m glad you could relate to it.

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